We all like to feel good about ourselves. Nobody likes to think of himself or herself as being below average. As we are always taught on life skills about self confidence, it is important to be able to look honestly at our personal strengths and weaknesses. Everyone wants to set high personal goals, but not goals that are wildly unrealistic. Self confidence grounded in genuine accomplishment is an important element of success while Overconfidence is an obstacle to success.
Looking at the stars in a glowing dark I could hear her ”Im the best when it comes to relationships, I don’t like holding grudges, I read motivation speech everyday and I sleep as sweetly as a baby at night,because I know I’m not capable of hurting people,I’m always positive and I don’t like negative thoughts in my mind. I love reading and I performed very well.I’ll definitely go back to school to study law…. no not law I guess I will be studying international relations because I know I’m really smart….
Human beings like to make a good impression, and for some people that means letting everyone across any number of situations. Of course there is a time and place for self-promotion, but just one step too far can land you in the bragging zone.
Have you had instances of people who claim to be more talented or knowledgeable than they really are.
Have you heard about self deception???
Last year, I met someone who was trying to be one-of-a-kind. Someone who will try to get along with everyone which is not logic because I’m sure no matter how good you are not everyone will like you.
Esther was her name and I liked her outgoing personality and her charms but when I spent more time with her then I must say I didn’t like her behaviour at all, perhaps it’s because I held confused meanings of her character
”I know, ” ”You can’t understand!” This were her phrases which She will scream by letting you know she’s the best and she will demean you showing you that according to her you are not as wise as she is, She used to say this particularly to show you she is the best in her job, She will continue to tell you how good she was at her studies,She will brag about how her clothes are expensive among others, She will do this by repeating past glories and promising that they will continue to conquer the world.
In addition to this ,Whenever you are discussing a topic with her she will change the topic as She was a conversation narcissist as she would try to turn the topic to her self instead of showing interest in the speaker.I used to refer her as a stage hogger.
I asked others whether they saw something funny on her behavior and everyone else was like ”yeah”. When I couldn’t take anymore of those brags then I guess we stopped getting along and we begun having petty fights which led to no good.
In this world there are different types of characters and egocentric is one of them.Egocentrism is a tendency of seeing reality centered to oneself and self-serving bias,is a form of egocentrism where people tend to overate themselves. Studies show that self-serving bias is an extremely common trait. It is easy, of course, to understand why people tend to overrate themselves.
At some point of your life you will meet people with such behavior but it’s not easy to cope with their behavior if you are unaware of intellectual traits. Therefore you need to learn how to handle a braggart tactfully.
You can politely interrupt them, where he/she will notice she is boring you.
You can avoid discussing topics that will lead him/her to bragging.
A braggart is so self-absorbed, he will think you have been dumbstruck by his greatness, One thing I’ve learnt about them is that braggarts,never acknowledge that they are bragging.,They are also unaware that they are annoying Instead, braggarts believe they are helping you to become as awesome as they are by sharing their secrets.
But the big question still remains When you see someone living a lie and absorbed by self deception should we tell someone that he/she is a braggart or should we just let them be?